How To Save Your Marriage In Three Steps

Use your partner’s verbal and non verbal cues / clues to determine what EXACTLY the cause of the break is up / divorce.

What does your partner want / need that they aren’t getting and how can you provide it in a way that won’t be too obvious or drive them further away?

Pick your poison, so to speak.

Choose a method to meet both you and your partner’s needs. This may take some careful planning. You do not want to come from a position of weakness or desperation. But, if your partner is non receptive, there are obstacles to overcome.

There are two good books for this. Amy Waterman’s Save My Marriage (popular with women) and T. Jackson’s The Magic of Making Up (popular with men and women who want to understand men). He has an excellent free video on the first step toward saving your marriage, a must see.

Keep creating / participating in situations (in the books) that allow you to improve the relationship by meeting both of your needs.

Show your spouse the person they fell in love with. Keep repeating this process until your relationship is where you want it. (Be careful that none of this reads as fake or insincere and don’t overdo it to drive your spouse further away.) Refer back to books as needed. Both authors offer personal support / free resources and are nice people who are very approachable. USE THEM. That’s what they are there for. At the very least check out the Free Videos and E – Courses.

PEACE

Shimmy C. Kotu

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