My Husband Ignores Me For Weeks on End

By Brenda Carter

If you are a married woman that often states “My husband ignores me for weeks on end.” then you may need to learn how to communicate with your husband. There is a good chance that something you may have said or done was perceived by him in the wrong way which is the reason behind your husband ignoring you.

Men need to feel respected in order to give back to their relationship. If they don’t feel any respect then many times they will tune out the whole situation they are in and go into survival mode. Survival mode will allow a husband to keep going through his life, but not really live it. He is married to his wife in name and by law only, but emotionally he is totally checked out of the whole situation and totally ignoring his wife.

There are many things that may have caused a man to go into marriage survival mode, but most of the time it comes down to one thing: he has been made to feel inadequate.

Try to think back to a time before your husband checked out of your marriage. Were you trying to change a habit that your husband had? Did you nag him about it every time you had a chance? This was and is a good example of where things can start to go wrong. Of course, this is a blatant example and probably not the case in most marriages.

Many times a woman doesn’t even mean to make her husband feel inadequate; it’s a matter of a simple comment that can be perceived by a husband as “I’m not good enough.” A wife makes a statement like “The Carters just bought a gorgeous house.” and her husband can immediately start thinking in his mind that he is not good enough. Maybe he starts thinking that he needs to get a better job and make more money to keep up with the Carters so his wife will respect him. If he acts on these thoughts then he will possibly start to throw himself more at his work and not come home until late at night which will then make the problem even worse in the eyes of the wife. Women don’t get it because we are perfectly happy with what we have, so we can’t understand why our husband is working more. Eventually everything falls into a spiral, leading our husband into survival mode and checking out.

If you want your husband to stop ignoring you, then you need to start making him feel respected again, even if he doesn’t deserve it at this point in time. Try to start thinking about how he will perceive what you may say and think about how you can make your statement differently and still get your point across. Don’t stop saying what you think, just turn on the filter to make your statement in his language.

Learning how men and women communicate differently can help you deal with a husband who ignores you. This is just one of the many marriage techniques taught by Rob & Tess Davis of MarriageMap.

To watch their free video on how to get started on a spectacular marriage, visit www.marriagemap.info

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